Have you ever bickered in public with your significant other? Last weekend, a couple of friends and I went on a road trip and we stopped at a cafeteria to get something to eat. We sat at a table next to a couple that was deeply engrossed in a discussion.
We could tell by the couple’s body language that it was a heated discussion. They tried to keep their voices low, but we caught snippets of the argument. The woman seemed to be the instigator of the fight. For a while, the man tried to calm her down but she was having none of it.
She went on laying into him. She must have said something really hurtful because all of a sudden, he stopped trying to calm the situation and launched into a savage onslaught of words. Nothing could have prepared us for what was about to come.
A few minutes into the argument, things started to escalate. It got so heated that it seemed like they no longer cared about causing a scene. They started raising their voices at each other and soon enough, they had the attention of the whole cafeteria.
They were calling each other names and we no longer had to speculate about what this ugly public tiff was about. They were venting their dirty laundry in public! It wasn’t until their little spat spiralled out of control and they started throwing things at each other that someone finally intervened.
The couple stomped out in different directions leaving the rest of us shocked.
That brawl was the topic of conversation for the rest of the afternoon in that cafeteria! I can’t think of anything worse than having to listen in on a lover’s quarrel. It is embarrassing!
I know that arguments are a normal part of a relationship, but people should really try not to have these spats in public. I know that sometimes your significant other can do or say something so unforgivable that the normal reaction would be uncontrollable rage, regardless of where you are.
While it is not advisable to bottle up feelings, it is better to wait until you are in a private place to start an argument with your significant other.
One should never air their dirty laundry in public. Bickering in public shows a lack of self-respect and lack of respect for your significant other.
It also shows that you don’t value your relationship enough to keep your issues private. No fight is so pressing that it can’t wait for you to get behind closed doors. Fighting in public is uncouth and it puts innocent bystanders in an awkward position.
Yes, it is important to tell your significant other what you are feeling if they have hurt you, but try and show a little discretion. Believe me, you really don’t want to be the topic of discussion because you could not wait a few minutes to get home to have that argument with your partner.
Having strange people hear your private business is humiliating to say the least. I know sometimes it is inevitable for a fight to occur. When your partner starts an argument with you in a public area, do not engage him or her. Agree, nod and wait until you are in a private area to discuss it.